Marcia's Specialties
Substance Abuse
In therapy, Marcia helps her clients anticipate and prepare for the distorted messages that lead to relapse. This is done through a process of learning about the disease and how it affects the mind of each client. Without such an understanding, resisting the compulsion to relapse is difficult. In addition to knowledge of the disease, the need for improved coping skills is an essential part of relapse prevention, because poor coping is the primary reason for relapse. Marcia identified an area of breakdown in coping that is common in addicts. Clients learn detailed strategies that will enable them to cope more effectively, and improve their overall functioning.
Couples
Marcia is a Certified EFT Therapist She was the fifth therapist in the Chicagoland area to be Certified in EFT. In EFT relationship problems are viewed as the result of problematic cycles of interaction that have an underlying emotional component. Neither partner is viewed as the cause of the problem. The problem is the cycle that keeps them from connecting in a satisfying way. Therapy focuses on the couple's negative cycle and the emotions that drive it. The goal is for the couple to replace the old cycle with new patterns of interaction that reinforce their connection and the creation of a safe bond. For more information on Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples, refer to (http://www.rebeccajorgensen.com/what-is-eft/.)
Women's Issues
Women often think that healthy boundaries are a bad thing. A woman’s interpretation of her role as mother, spouse, caretaker, friend and household organizer can quickly erode personal boundaries. Without these normal boundaries, codependency may develop. When taking care of others interferes with taking care of oneself, resentment, depression, anxiety and a variety of other symptoms appear.
The healing process involves working on healthy boundaries and includes redefining one's role as an individual and within relationships. This is done by getting in touch with needs, wants and disappointments in life. Clients learn to identify options, many times, in areas they weren't aware they had choices. Improving communication skills is another step in the process and involves taking part in productive communication, avoiding power struggles and pulling out of escalating interactions. Clients report an increased sense of empowerment, feeling more respected by others and more in control of their lives.
For Family Members: Why can’t they just stop?
From the viewpoint of a loved one, the senseless behavior of the addict can be maddening. A solid understanding of the disease and the way it affects the addict is an important element in the family recovery process. The disease of addiction has an overwhelming effect on an addict's thought process, and, is generally misunderstood by loved ones. Marcia helps family members learn about the disease which helps make sense of the dishonesty, sneaking, resistance and other destructive behaviors they have witnessed. With better understanding, loved ones can focus energy on healthy changes they are able to make, rather than on anger, blame and feelings of betrayal that stand in the way of healing.
Parenting Issues
Parents occasionally need guidance and support when facing challenges with their child. They may feel a lost sense of authority with concerns about disrespectful, manipulative or acting out behavior. This can happen with children of all ages, including adult children. Parents of troubled emerging adults may find themselves with a child whom is failing to launch. Parents of a child actively abusing substances may struggle with all these issues and more. In most cases, healthy change must be initiated by the parent but doing so can be difficult. Marcia helps parents establish healthy boundaries which involves the redistribution of appropriate role responsibilities from the parent to the child. Marcia works with parents on establishing clear expectations, setting consistent limits and enforcing consequences. This promotes healthy decision making, and increased independence in the child.
Marcia H. Vickman
[email protected]
847-660-3747
In therapy, Marcia helps her clients anticipate and prepare for the distorted messages that lead to relapse. This is done through a process of learning about the disease and how it affects the mind of each client. Without such an understanding, resisting the compulsion to relapse is difficult. In addition to knowledge of the disease, the need for improved coping skills is an essential part of relapse prevention, because poor coping is the primary reason for relapse. Marcia identified an area of breakdown in coping that is common in addicts. Clients learn detailed strategies that will enable them to cope more effectively, and improve their overall functioning.
Couples
Marcia is a Certified EFT Therapist She was the fifth therapist in the Chicagoland area to be Certified in EFT. In EFT relationship problems are viewed as the result of problematic cycles of interaction that have an underlying emotional component. Neither partner is viewed as the cause of the problem. The problem is the cycle that keeps them from connecting in a satisfying way. Therapy focuses on the couple's negative cycle and the emotions that drive it. The goal is for the couple to replace the old cycle with new patterns of interaction that reinforce their connection and the creation of a safe bond. For more information on Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples, refer to (http://www.rebeccajorgensen.com/what-is-eft/.)
Women's Issues
Women often think that healthy boundaries are a bad thing. A woman’s interpretation of her role as mother, spouse, caretaker, friend and household organizer can quickly erode personal boundaries. Without these normal boundaries, codependency may develop. When taking care of others interferes with taking care of oneself, resentment, depression, anxiety and a variety of other symptoms appear.
The healing process involves working on healthy boundaries and includes redefining one's role as an individual and within relationships. This is done by getting in touch with needs, wants and disappointments in life. Clients learn to identify options, many times, in areas they weren't aware they had choices. Improving communication skills is another step in the process and involves taking part in productive communication, avoiding power struggles and pulling out of escalating interactions. Clients report an increased sense of empowerment, feeling more respected by others and more in control of their lives.
For Family Members: Why can’t they just stop?
From the viewpoint of a loved one, the senseless behavior of the addict can be maddening. A solid understanding of the disease and the way it affects the addict is an important element in the family recovery process. The disease of addiction has an overwhelming effect on an addict's thought process, and, is generally misunderstood by loved ones. Marcia helps family members learn about the disease which helps make sense of the dishonesty, sneaking, resistance and other destructive behaviors they have witnessed. With better understanding, loved ones can focus energy on healthy changes they are able to make, rather than on anger, blame and feelings of betrayal that stand in the way of healing.
Parenting Issues
Parents occasionally need guidance and support when facing challenges with their child. They may feel a lost sense of authority with concerns about disrespectful, manipulative or acting out behavior. This can happen with children of all ages, including adult children. Parents of troubled emerging adults may find themselves with a child whom is failing to launch. Parents of a child actively abusing substances may struggle with all these issues and more. In most cases, healthy change must be initiated by the parent but doing so can be difficult. Marcia helps parents establish healthy boundaries which involves the redistribution of appropriate role responsibilities from the parent to the child. Marcia works with parents on establishing clear expectations, setting consistent limits and enforcing consequences. This promotes healthy decision making, and increased independence in the child.
Marcia H. Vickman
[email protected]
847-660-3747